How to tell the truth?

Hello everyone,

Telling the truth is not always easy. What do you think?

The truth is interesting if it serves to think, otherwise it is useless. A truth is good if the person who chooses to speak it is in total respect of the other, and does not simply say what they think.
Being sincere is not an argument in itself.
Sincerity can also be a selfish feeling, an alibi, one that relieves only the one who states the said truth.
When someone asks you to tell them the truth, how can you be sure that the person is ready to hear it? It is better to be clear about your intentions before letting yourself go with a truth that can be just as healing as it is devastating…
Marylena

Hello Maryléna!

The question is who among us truly holds the truth…?

When you tell the truth, you often realize you would have been better off staying silent.
Any truth can be spoken, but it all depends on what the other person is willing to hear.
The truth is a double-edged sword.

Kisses
The magician.

Hello magic,
Yes, the truth is not always pleasant to hear; it is indeed a formidable weapon, but sometimes it is so necessary to move things forward.
magic kisses
Marylena

Hello Marylena,
That’s a very interesting question you’re asking…
Yes, some people prefer silence to telling the truth. Probably because that truth would hurt.
I have another related question: how does one feel when they don't want to tell the truth and are hiding something from the other person?

ClaudiaC

Dear Claudiac,
It is true that everything depends on which truth you are hiding, and you need to ask yourself whether it causes you suffering or the other person suffering. It is always difficult to make a decision such as telling the truth, but know that over time, the truth always comes to light one way or another… Everything eventually becomes known.
Best regards
Marylena

Dear Marylena,
Thank you for your response, which I find very good.
Kisses
ClaudiaC

Hello Claudiac and Maryléna,

Telling a truth that requires us to intrude into someone else’s private or intimate life is never a good thing to say, because that truth risks causing more harm than good.
There are truths that come to light on their own, without needing a nudge to make them shine!

My regards
The magician.

Hello,
I think that telling the truth, even if it may hurt, has the merit of being honest and direct, because I believe that not telling the truth can leave the other person, who knows it is being withheld or that something is not being said, in a state of doubt, misunderstanding, and anticipation... and that is exasperating...
For my part, I prefer to know the truth even if it hurts me… at least I know where I stand.
Best regards,
ClaudiaC

Dear Claudiac,

Sometimes not telling the truth can protect the person in front of us.
Everyone chooses their own way of saying or hearing it, while knowing that there will inevitably be as much good as bad, but the truth is always known one day…
Everyone is different depending on their personality and character, which differs from whether or not they tell the truth.
kisses
Marylena

The truth …

I will try to look at the issue from a different angle.

The truth, whatever it may be and however painful it is, I like to be told it. I prefer the sharp pain of a tooth being pulled to the insidious pain of a persistent toothache.

Everyone reacts differently, and some prefer to plug their ears rather than hear or see it.

And even if we prefer to hear it… before blaming others for not saying it to our faces, could we ourselves say it? It is not that easy.

Since you love the truth, Claudiac, I’m not going to tell you one, but ask you a question. You don’t have to answer me, just yourself, and without lying to yourself, (smiles)..

If your child were ill, would you tell them that they are doomed and that they will die in atrocious suffering within a few weeks? I could not do that. And when my father was ill, when his days were numbered, when he himself saw his end approaching, I urged him to fight to pull through, all the while knowing that I was lying to him.
And when my son was ill, I never told him about the fears his illness caused me. I always kept a positive attitude in front of him.
I deeply admire the doctors who have the courage to tell their patients, “You only have a few days left to live.”
You have to be a very subtle psychologist to know whether to deliver such a truth to someone or to hide it from them.

So, the truth—even if we want to know it—is not only something that not all of us are capable of hearing and accepting, but even less of speaking, at least in certain circumstances.

Best regards to you all

Hello, my darlings,

Everything is said in your words, but would it not also be necessary to ask the question “what is a lie”?

Who has not lied or told themselves a lie at some point?

whether it is to protect oneself or simply to allow oneself not to take a stance in the face of a situation or an emotion

Lying is not an evil; sometimes it is that inexpressible thing deep within oneself, in the being who does not feel capable of being loved or simply of choosing the right path in the moment.

Is this lie harmful?

I say no, if it helps to avoid being mistaken about the truth of what we are, whether in these possibilities or these impossibilities.

However, one can distinguish various truths and varieties of lies.

We must not forget that our own truths are not those of others.

So now we understand the magnificence of each act, even when we lie to ourselves…

Best regards

Lollipop

Hello Lollipop!

Lying is a form of misapprehension of the reality that surrounds us on a daily basis.
Lying can be harmful when it intends to cause harm, and it can be beneficial when it aims to protect us or to preserve others.

Best regards
The magician.

There is conscious truth
and conscious truth

There is also conscious lying.
and the unconscious lie

In your opinion, which ones are the most harmful?

I invite you to illustrate this with a situation or a text.

you will understand which ones can first cause harm to oneself and then to others

Best regards

Lollipop

There is conscious truth
and the unconscious truth

There is also conscious lying.
and the unconscious lie

In your opinion, which ones are the most harmful?

I invite you to illustrate this with a situation or a text.

you will understand which ones can first harm yourself and then others

Best regards

Lollipop

This quest for the Grail of Truth…

annihilated throughout the ages

The Inquisition, under the yoke of its own truth, has made the word extremely violent.

The same is true for territorial wars around the world: using the truth to kill… one’s own truth, inscribed in one’s own culture or one’s own conception of it.

I prefer a lie that gives life
a truth that kills

Yes, indeed, I seem tough on that point.

Not really

Because I would tell a person at the end of their life that they will not die

As I would say to the person who is lying: I love your happiness; that is how I feel you are most alive, ready to do anything to keep it alive, at all costs.

As I prefer the truth that is inexpressible and invisible, for the truth does not need brilliance, but simply to share a hope... without violence or imposition of it...

Best regards

Hello Mamyol,
Of course not, I'm not going to answer you.
Just asking you another question: why did you write "smiles" after writing "without lying to me"? What do you imply?

ClaudiaC

Hello Minerve

Mom, I love your smiles (without lying to me)

lollipop

Hello again,
If I wrote that in my other post, it’s because Mamyol is convinced that I keep lying to myself! She made that clear to me via private message.
And if Mamyol thinks I'm lying, that doesn't make me smile!
And if Mamyol mouse, because I'm lying, I'd rather not answer anything anymore!
Leave me alone, I don't ask for anything at all.
ClaudiaC

and I will no longer reply in this thread.
I have my own opinion of the truth, and it is mine. And I live with it and no one else.

ClaudiaC