LONELINESS

Do you like it?

Do you hate it?

Do you feel lonely despite being surrounded by people?

What is loneliness?

Is it physical, psychological, or material?

Take up your pens

lolly

Hi Lolly!

Here is my “My Solitude”

Do you like it?

I sometimes like to be alone, it allows me to
to recharge myself in my inner being, to reclaim my
positive energies and allow me to take
thoughtful decisions and to make my
Careful choices when I have to make decisions, especially when other people are involved.

-or do you hate it–

On the other hand, I hate loneliness when it is imposed on me
Outdone by the others!!
When other people don't keep their word
and change their minds at the last minute”
I'm trying to figure out the reason for this sudden reversal.
It is up to me to know not to take this as “rejection”
I like frank and honest people, even if the truth
I don't always like it, and some people hide certain things so as not to make me "suffer."
I don't like this; I prefer the truth, even if it's very hard to accept at the time…

- Do you feel lonely despite being surrounded by people? -

I have already felt lonely despite being surrounded by people, but it also depends on my social circle sometimes, on conversations that don’t excite me, or in family gatherings or other events!!
But this solitude doesn’t make me sad; I simply don’t participate in their conversations. I just listen with one ear, while the other remains in my inner self, and in such cases, I try to analyze the reason behind their conversation without judgment!!
But this behavior of mine bothers others more than it bothers me!!
They tell me I'm special, that I'm isolating myself, that I don't participate!!!
I'm just trying not to get dragged into their own conflict!!!
If I don't fit into their mold, I am different, and well, yes, I probably am, and without any pretense on my part, I accept their difference in accepting mine!

What is loneliness?

Is it physical, psychological, or material—

For me, loneliness is a state of mind
So "psychic"

Here is what “solitude” means to me, my dear Lolly

Big kisses to you, beautiful lady with a big heart.

Marie

Hi my dears!

Loneliness!!!

Well, for my part, I often indulge in solitude.
Besides, I have very little social life.
Probably because I neither like relying on others, nor disturbing them, nor having to make concessions to please them.
I like being able to live as I please without owing anyone anything.

As for loneliness in the midst of a crowd, oh yes, it certainly exists, and even loneliness when I am surrounded by my entire family. In fact, that is the worst kind of loneliness.

But paradoxically, loneliness sometimes weighs on me, surely because we are not made to live alone. Having someone you love to share life's good moments with and to rely on when you are in need is something important.
A need for tenderness and comfort.

I think the dilemma for me would be figuring out how to reconcile solitude with a life as a couple. If I could manage to balance the two, that would be ideal.

Kisses to you both, my beauties!

Hello Mamyol, Lolly, and all my friends!

I’m picking up on your last few lines, my very dear Mamyol!

I think the dilemma for me would be figuring out how to combine solitude and life as a couple. If I could reconcile the two, that would be ideal.

I don't have divine inspiration, I'm just sharing a bit of my own thoughts.
And my personal experience!!

As some of you already know, I have fibromyalgia, and I won’t go into details about it.
It’s just that this crap that landed on me has ultimately given me a new perspective on my own life…
I probably wouldn’t be here writing to you if I hadn’t gone back into my past to review my journey and understand where this suffering came from.

I know them better now, and that is to tell you, “My Ladies.”

Don't wait for your Man to bring you "Complete Happiness"
That day does not exist and will never exist

You all have different gifts, and they are so beautiful and bring so much pleasure.
It is enough to hear and read you
Use your gifts and create your life to give yourself the means to fulfill your ambitions
However small they may be.

I invite my friends to “CREATE”

Look within your inner being at what you truly are without a mask!!!
Look at what your talents are asking to express themselves!!!
Look at who you are on the inside!!! and let that shine through on the outside!!!

You carry your own life within you!!!
Your need to "mother" is over; replace this need with other things!!!
Go back to your past and look at your dreams that were never able to be expressed!!!
For lack of time, health, and money, let's be realistic too!!!
Now, with the means you have created, and take pleasure in
Everything you do
This might be nonsense!!
You love doing the laundry, so go ahead and do laundry for your friends, cook, clean, iron, write your poems, etc.
The list is long...
Create according to your physical or financial means!!!
You are all pearls and you are all "independent" now
The more you create, the more at ease you will feel in your own skin.
Your loneliness will be nothing but a bad dream
And your need to nurture will be fulfilled by something else
Your husband or partner will be happy to see a lively woman
And seeing you thriving will perhaps make you see yourself in a different light.

Marie

Dear Marie,

Thank you for sharing this; I take the liberty of responding to you in this way to honor, with the utmost respect, this creation that you freely offer us and which resonates with the beauty of our discoveries at every step we take…

Solitude is a dish to be savored in the joy of inner reflection, and you express it so well in your chapter; the inner call is a source of fulfillment in those moments when the profound silence of our being invites us to say thank you for what we are in life…

Your franchise is a powerful and creative light; sometimes the hidden remains one's own, others not seeking to hurt but rather to remain neutral in the face of their inability to respond to a request that is not foreign to them but simply does not correspond to their degree of initiation or approach.

This inner difference within you is powerful because, beyond words, it is a source of understanding, tolerance, and also deep respect for the nature of all that is living.

This authenticity in itself can sometimes lead to conflicts or misunderstandings, but when it remains benevolent and in harmony with the very nature of the creative energies, it remains always fruitful and spreads harmony in life, whether in its individual or collective plane.

I kiss you, fairy of the senses – Princess of awakening

Bec
Lollipop

Why do so many people feel lonely? Because it is within themselves, in their minds and in their hearts, that they have created this loneliness. In reality, one is never alone. Complaining about being lonely is saying that one lacks love. But one lacks love because one does not love.

How many men and women are content to dream of love! They wait for the prince or princess of the Thousand and One Nights, and that is why they feel alone: because they are waiting for love, they do not seek it within themselves.

Love, you must not wait for it; it is within you: let it come out, manifest, and shine, for that is the only way you will truly encounter it.."

(Excerpt from the book "Thoughts" by Omraam Mikhaël Aïvanhov)

Hello Lolly pop and Mamyol,

To find love, you first have to start by loving yourself, not stay confined in your bubble, and also dare to approach others, without fearing getting rejected.
Not just seeking perfection, but knowing how to accept others as they are.

Best regards
The magician.

I am well, my ladies. Please be aware that we are all, one day or another, destined to live alone, whatever the circumstances.

Hello,

Yes, you are right, Rachida, but loneliness is not necessarily a bad thing. Here is the text of the Hoshi tarot card, which very well summarizes how to live with this loneliness.

Happy reading!

LONELINESS!!!

When you are alone, you are not lonely; you are simply isolated – and there is a huge difference

Between solitude and isolation.!!! When you are alone, you think of the other, the other is missing to you.
Loneliness is a negative state. You feel that it would be better if the other person were there—your friend, your wife, your mother, your beloved, your husband. It would have been good if the other person were there, but the other person is not there.
Isolation is the absence of the other. Solitude is the presence of oneself. Solitude is very positive. It is a presence, an overflow of presence. You are so filled with presence that you can fill the entire universe with your presence, and there is no need for anyone.

Osho The Discipline of Transcendence, Volume 1 Chapter 2

Comment:
When there is no longer a “dear being” in our lives, we may feel lonely or appreciate the freedom that solitude brings.
When we find no support from others for our deeply intuited truths, we can either feel isolated and bitter, or celebrate the fact that our vision is strong enough to withstand the formidable human need for approval, whether it comes from family, friends, or colleagues.
If you are currently facing such a situation, be aware of how you choose to view your “solitude” and take responsibility for the choice you have made.
The humble figure of this card radiates a light that emanates from within. One of Gautama Buddha’s most significant contributions to humanity’s spiritual life was to insist to his disciples: “Be your own light.” Ultimately, each of us must develop within ourselves the ability to find our way through the darkness, without a companion, map, or guide.

Copyright © 2008 Osho International Foundation

Good thinking and have a nice day

Best regards
Marie

Love, solitude

To be alone is to be oneself, nothing more. How could one be anything else? No one can live in our stead, nor die in our stead, nor suffer in our stead, and that is what we call solitude: it is merely another name for the effort of existing. No one will come
to bear your burden, alone. If we can sometimes help one another (and of course we can!), this presupposes each person’s solitary effort and cannot—save illusions—serve as a substitute for it. Solitude is therefore not a refusal of the other; on the contrary: to accept the other is to accept
like another (and not as an appendage, an instrument, or an object of oneself!), and this is what makes love, in its truth, a solitude. Rilke found the words that were needed to speak of this love that we need and of which we are so rarely capable: “Two
solitudes protecting, complementing, limiting, and bowing to one another.
Love is not the opposite of solitude: it is solitude shared, inhabited, illuminated—and sometimes darkened—by the solitude of the other. Love is always solitude, not that all solitude is loving, far from it, but because all love is solitary. No one can love in our place, nor within us, nor as we do. This desert, around oneself or the beloved object, is love itself.

(André Comte-Sponville, Love, solitude, Words of Dawn 1992)

You can feel lonely and misunderstood even when you live with a family and a partner… because even within a family, each person can be in their own bubble.

Right, Claudiac, if we love ourselves, if our inner sun radiates with love, then, with or without anyone around us, we are never alone, since we are love.

I know, Mamyol, we don't have the same understanding of this—which explains our differing opinions.
I am neither spiritual nor religious enough to take it that way.

Hello Rachida,

Loneliness is something we create through our attitudes or behaviors!

Kisses
The magician.

I was saying that because I don't understand why we talk about loneliness when we are surrounded by beings and things with which we maintain relationships through sight, touch, sympathy, and working together, us with others. Look, for example, we communicate, you, me, and the others, and who knows, maybe one day, hey.

My question about loneliness was not about any particular person.

What brings us to the internet?

The question has been raised.

Are we coming here to be satisfied with answers given by third parties?
whether it be clairvoyance or otherwise

Where do we come from, because we are aware?

Perhaps a contact here will allow showing a being that they are loved

even if he feels lonely

whether it's one evening or another

Loneliness is not isolated from our needs to move forward and learn to embrace life.

regards

Lollipop

What drove me to go online in general was for research purposes, not to fill a void of loneliness.

Dear Claudiac, the wall

What is a wall?
Perhaps it is the fact that a wall remains frozen within him.
Regardless of the seasons or circumstances, it will remain inert.

I shouldn't respond to your words

I don't understand them.
because I don't like guilt
because for me it is synonymous with the ease of not becoming aware of one's being in love

I kiss you, little pearl of broken tones of love

lollipop

Dear Claudia

You deserve to linger on this, for your journey, unlike their resonances, speaks for them.

You answer with that nostalgic understanding.

to discover yourself and to remain in unity with your being in life

this depth that you let yourself be perceived as having

is if …

Thank you for that.

beyond my words

respect remains

receive this in return

Best regards

Lolly

So don't respond to my words if you don't understand them; I don't understand yours either.