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Hello again, LadySally!

Do you see a breakup with my sweetheart?

Thank you for your reply!

Hello Bettina44,
No, I don't see any separation, except that you are moving (you are the one who is moving) and he will be there with you in your new apartment.
Kind regards
Ladysally

Thanks for your reply, I'll keep you posted!

Yes, hihiih, I hope so, because it would show whether I was wrong or not.
Kisses

Hi LadySally,

I’m getting back to you with the same question… Actually, things aren’t getting any better in my relationship; some days are fine, other days I’m fed up… I keep asking myself a lot of questions, and I think we’ve reached the end of the road together…
He says he wants to stay with me, but I feel like it's mostly out of habit, out of fear of being alone... I'm also afraid of being on my own, but I'm fed up with this relationship that seems to be heading straight for a crash...
Do you see a break on the horizon?

Thank you for your help.
Big kisses.

Hello bettina44,

Indeed, there are tensions because both you and he are moody.

The house, a place of debauchery where anything goes… the break will come with the help of the authorities, or else the end of the isolation. The solution will come from the authorities, from the administrations.

For now, the match is tight!!! It’s a stalemate; the change will come through support and administrative assistance, because otherwise you’ll keep going in circles for quite a while. The steps will begin after a long period of silence and isolation.

It won't get better, and unless you like it, it could last for years in a relationship that is far from desirable. I still don't see a separation, but as I said, it will happen later.

Affectionately
Ladysally

Thanks for your reply, that's exactly it: we're going in circles... I think we're both afraid to make a decision, so we just wait for the other one to do it, and that can go on for years...

When you say “the breakup will be done with the assistance of the authority,” does that mean a divorce with the help of a lawyer? Or are you thinking of something else?

Thank you again. Have a good evening.

I was initially thinking of a support service that helps couples, but I can’t remember the name anymore, grrrrrrrr. And if there’s still no solution, we’ll have to consider seeing a lawyer—even a lawyer for both of you, which would be cheaper.

Oh yes, I think I see, a marriage counselor, something like that?

Yes, that's it, I couldn't come up with the name!!! Big kisses.

Hello my beautiful,

Do you think we’ll reach an amicable settlement? Because he doesn’t want to separate, and I get the feeling that when I tell him my decision is final and I won’t take it back, he’ll get angry and make my life hell…

Kisses!

Good evening bettina44,

Discussion in progress and many outings (for errands).
I don't think you can reach a result without the help of a third party.

Kisses

Thank you again for taking the time to reply.
I don’t want to overstep, but will you handle these steps soon or in a few weeks/months?
And the actual separation, do you have an idea of the timeframe?
Thank you very much, I am really stressed out by this situation, which is infuriating me to no end…

Well, it's done, we talked about it yesterday… He seemed unhappy, but I think he understands that it's best for both of us, since we're no longer happy together, we need to split up.

Will he be “nice” to me, or will he make my life miserable or try to make me stay?

And do you see a bright future for him, a new relationship? I can no longer bear being in a couple with him, but I still have a great deal of affection for him and I hope he will recover from our breakup.

Big kisses.
Bettina44

Good evening bettina44,

It’s true that in the past he used to get angry easily, but that’s no longer the case; he will make an effort to calm down as soon as he feels his temper rising. He will certainly rebuild his life, but he will always have worries and troubles, as he won’t be able to soon forget his life with you.

Kisses
Ladysally

Thank you for your reply, dear LadySally.

When you say he will have problems, do you mean he will have difficulties finding someone to start a new life with, or will he have difficulties in his relationship?

And do you see him moving out soon, or is it me?

Have a good day.
Kisses
Bettina44