life choices

Hello, the Magician

I have already consulted with the happiness at the end of the road. So here it is, I am on the verge of a separation and I have someone in my heart for whom you told me you saw positive things coming on the romantic front. I am, of course, the sole arbiter regarding the separation and I will not ask you any questions about that. However, regarding the person who occupies my thoughts, I am perplexed because after a very timid rapprochement, she seems to be pulling away; I have the impression that there is something very strong and at the same time that it is doomed to fail. I did not want to rush things because I know that this person experienced a heavy romantic disappointment a few years ago and it would be clumsy of me to force fate. Since that disappointment, this person has been having one-night stands and refuses to get attached. I am lost, what can I hope for?
Thank you for your help.
Sabine

Good evening Brocéliande -Sabine,

The advice I could give you is, of course, without rushing him, to try opening up to him yourself, letting him understand that you empathize with him given your own experiences, but that you’re tired of flings and empty promises, and that you’re looking for a genuine, meaningful relationship.
And the best way to know what to expect or what you can hope for is for him to be frank with you and vice versa, because continuing to live a relationship mentally without any concrete outcome is purely platonic, and when you truly love someone, that’s not sustainable.

With my friendship
The magician.

Good evening, Magician

Thank you for your reply... I am trying to make him understand that it cannot remain platonic. He has just lost a loved one, and I sent him a message of support with all my friendship... I love him...