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Good evening Lemagicien,

I dated J for just under two months. Yesterday, he shared his doubts with me; his ex hurt him a lot, and he’s afraid to commit again, so he doesn’t know whether we should keep going or not.

What do you see, please? A real breakup, or just a good reality check?
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Thank you very much!

Hello Bettina44,

I don't see any break or refocusing; in my opinion, J. is trying, on a relational or sentimental level, to keep the church in the middle of the village with you so as not to hurt you.
J. is in a kind of deadlock, and since he lacks the courage to make up his mind, he can only remain in this non-committal instability toward you or anyone else.
You’ve been dating him for just under two months, which is too short to really know someone.
From my personal point of view, I would be more inclined to tell you that you are wasting your time with him (to be taken in the conditional).

Have a good day
The magician.

Hello Lemagicien,

Well, in the end, there was a real clarification yesterday.
We shared our doubts and fears, and we decided to keep going together because we both still want to give it a try. Even better, we decided that from now on, we consider ourselves a couple (until then, we were just “hanging out,” without really envisioning a long-term future together).

That's my first take. I hope the future proves you wrong!
Thank you for your reply, and have a good Sunday!

Hello Bettina44,

Well, what a positive turn of events! I wish you both that this clarification and decision-making will be beneficial to you!

Have a good day
The magician.

Hello Lemagicien,

Thank you for your kind words.
I’d like to know what you see: do you think this clarification will actually allow us to build something going forward?
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Thank you very much and have a good Sunday!
Bettina

Hello Bettina44,

Following your clarification, I see that you both have the will to build something together, but avoid putting pressure on each other and persevere in the pursuit of a mutual love that aims to be harmonious in sharing, and then the rest will be constructive!

Happy Sunday
The magician.