An affront from the past

Hello everyone,

From Thursday night to Friday, I dreamed of a past situation I had experienced in life. Here is the story briefly: my dear and adorable little brother had the audacity to not invite me to his first wedding, having made a selective, I would say very selective, choice of guests for the occasion.

So I dreamed about this event that took place almost 20 years ago. I was wearing a pretty blue bustier long dress (I wore this dress at his second wedding, where he had the immense generosity to invite me this time, at my mother’s insistence). I found myself in a room where the meal was taking place. The people whose presence I felt and whose voices I heard without seeing them are my grandparents, my father, and my brother. The others whose voices I heard and whom I saw are my brother’s wife, my sister, my brother-in-law, and my mother. There were other individuals, but I didn’t know them.

At the moment I was taking a seat at a table for the meal. I noticed that all the tablecloths were red, and instead of facing each other, the guests had their backs turned to us. Consequently, I knew my mother was seated to my left, but with her back to me. When I sat down, I asked her how it was that there were no cutlery or plate at my place, and my mother replied, still with her back to me (dressed in gray), "It's normal, you were invited but not counted among the people dining." Angry at this insult, I left the room to go to the room where all the guests' belongings were stored. Curious, this room strangely resembled my parents' bedroom, and I took a gift that my sister and brother-in-law had made for my brother's wife (the bride) to break it. I returned to the room where all the guests were eating, and I saw my sister and brother-in-law looking at me with a mocking smile. What surprised me upon waking up was remembering that there was something heavy in that room and that there was practically no light. The walls were dark, the little furniture was also dark, those dark red tablecloths; I knew there were many people, but I could not see many people at the same time.

Thank you for your patience in reading me to the end, and if you are able to make sense of this rather bizarre dream, I would be delighted to receive your analysis, for which I thank you in advance for your kindness in enlightening me.

Hello Josy,
Dreaming about these past events is somewhat recurrent; in fact, you are only just beginning to process them, and every time you think about it, it saddens you again. This dream shows you that you were deeply shocked by the past. The red tablecloth, the lack of cutlery, the guests having their backs turned, etc.…
Put it in perspective; he will realize that he was wrong not to invite you. You had a discussion about this and brought up the past.
Best regards
Ladysally

Hello Ladysally,

Thank you so much for your interest.

It’s strange because I hadn’t really been thinking about it lately, and I’ll be honest with you, had we talked about it some time after that incident, you would have found me quite upset, but now I’ve come to terms with that slight and it no longer holds any power over me.

Yes, I was shocked, and it took me a while to come to terms with this state of affairs.

I don't think my brother feels the slightest guilt about his actions. He is a pedantic person who believes he alone possesses all knowledge and truth (just like my parents). He has been able to act this way toward me for a very long time because he had free rein to do so, given that my parents have always shown their preference for him. The only relationship that exists today is the fact that we share the same blood in our veins and bear the same surname; that is all. We never see each other, which is entirely his doing; in nearly 20 years, we have had to meet only four or five times for family funerals. Therefore, at no point have we discussed this unpleasant subject; in any case, he is too proud for that and avoids all dialogue with me.

Here are a few details, Ladysally, that might help you better understand the meaning of this dream.

Hello Josy,
It is a fact that he has not changed and will never change, given that you are having this dream after twenty years. And since there is no more affinity between you. You are trying to grieve, yet every time you see him, it reawakens emotions of frustration that you experienced from your brother, and also from your parents.
Friendly
Ladysally

Dear Ladysally

As you say, every time I see them—parents or brother, or even sister—they indeed bring back those painful moments. That is why I have decided to keep a great distance for an indefinite period, until I have observed a change on their part. A therapist I was speaking with once told me that it is better to have nothing than to have to endure negativity, so I adopted that mindset, which suits me perfectly.

Thank you so much for your support

Hello Rosy,
Sometimes it’s best to take a step back from family if they’re causing you distress; in that case, it’s better to avoid them.
I prefer family unity to isolation and living alone as an individual. But sometimes it’s harder to say than to do.
I am in the same situation as you, my dear Josy.
I have submitted my wedding story in a gesture of goodwill.
Best regards
Ladysally

Hello Josy,

Receiving an insult in a dream simply indicates that the slanders or calumnies you may fall victim to will not affect you; you will be the one to prevail!

Friendship
The magician.

Hello Lemagicien,

Thank you for your reply.

Finally, a dream that allows me to think positively.

Not only will the spit of those nasty toads not reach me, but I will also prevail ;) Is the wheel finally turning in my favor?

But, actually, when it comes to a past experience that resurfaces in a dream, is it interpreted in the same way? Does it make no difference at all?

Hello Josy,

According to this dream, the wheel should finally start turning in your favor!
Whether it is a past experience, it has resurfaced in your dream, indicating that these are facts that have remained buried in your consciousness for all these years and will finally find their resolution now, at the present time; it is in this that the dream announcing a probable mourning (black) will finally find its explanation.
Because things will be said or revealed, confessions will be made, that will finally free you from the burden you carry…

Friendship
The magician.

Hello Lemagicien,

Thank you for these new clarifications.

You are right; these unpleasant events had been buried in me for many years.

A curious fact: my son and I dreamed the same night. He dreamed of the dark, and I dreamed of this insult.

So let us await these revelations and may I finally be freed from this burden.