HELP!!! NOTHING'S WORKING ANYMORE!!!

Everything has fallen apart, what should I do??? Separation at Christmas 2004, payments, loss of friends, family virtually nonexistent, severe depression, work stoppage, dental bills, finances declining, difficulty eating, and on top of that, benefits cut off!!! HELP ME! TELL ME WHAT YOU SEE IN MY FUTURE? What will happen now? Will I finally see the end of it? PLEASE answer me, I beg you!

Good evening Geneviève,

Your message struck a chord with me; I see myself a few years ago, alone with my three children and without a job.

Well, you're going to have to fight for it; I know it's not easy.

When there’s a breakup, that’s when you see your true friends; you can count them on one hand, they’re hard to come by, and you find yourself face to face with yourself and your problems. It’s not the end of the world; you’ll meet other people along the way. Here on the forum, you’ll always have support and some advice—we won’t just leave you hanging like that.

Good for work, try to find hours for housekeeping or ironing. Word of mouth works, so talk to the shopkeepers around your home; it helps for a while and gives you time to deal with unemployment benefits and find a job in your field.

If you have bills you can't pay, social workers can also help you with them. You may be eligible for CMU (Complementary Health Coverage); you need to apply at your social security office. Do it, as it can help cover your dental and other expenses.

Regarding your benefits, if it’s not too nosy, which ones are you referring to—unemployment insurance or the family allowance fund?

A question that might be considered intrusive: do you have any dependents? If you prefer, you can reply via private message; it's located below my username on the left.

For your depression, are you taking any treatment, even a mild one? It helps you move forward calmly. Yes, it masks the reality a bit, but you can find solutions more easily.

Don't give up, you must fight, and we will be by your side to help you get back on your feet with the resources we have, so please don't hesitate to reach out.

kisses

sebsylam

Hello Geneviève,

Like our friend Sebsylam, I was struck by your message and recognized myself in the description of the issues raised.

Sebsylam asked you the essential questions to better understand your situation.

Don't lose heart, I know it's a hollow word when you're in the turmoil you're in, but we will find solutions.

Unfortunately, when you find yourself in this situation, friends and family disappear as if by magic, if I may put it that way. In general, our circle is not brave in the face of difficulties; as long as it’s about being with us in the good times, but as soon as our troubles appear on the horizon, they flee, preferring to leave us to our difficulties. It’s hard, but unfortunately that’s just how it is, and we can count on one hand our true and sincere friends. In the meantime, tell yourself that you won’t have to say thank you to anyone, and ultimately that will be your strength, your pride. Try to find something positive through this disappointment.

I am sorry to hear that you have experienced a severe depression; I hope it is no longer with you now.

I don't know where you live, but if you had been close to me, I would have been more than happy to support you to the best of my ability.

I know it’s hard to go begging for help from social services, but you need to get through this first. Make an appointment with your local social worker and see if you can get substantial assistance to start paying your EDF and water bills. Like everyone else, you are entitled to medical coverage under the CMU. Apply for it so you can get treatment, because it’s important that you’re in good health to face and resolve these problems.

I am with you wholeheartedly, and please don't hesitate to contact me so that we can find practical solutions together to help you stay afloat. Beyond this support, I offer you my friendship and affection, with this hand I extend to you.

Good luck, don't despair, things will work out one way or another.

HELLO GENEVIEVE

Like my friends on the forum, I will support you!!!

As far as I'm concerned, I think the first thing you should do is
RECLAIM YOUR CONFIDENCE
I’ve been through the same thing, and I can tell you that you first need to rebuild your self-esteem: no, everything that happens is not solely your fault!
You had built it all and it all crumbled down, and well, start over! You know what it is now; you will rebuild it better, more beautiful, stronger.

Get up every morning, just like before, get ready, dress up, and go for it… ANPE, temp agencies…
Look on the internet on job-related sites… motivate yourself and you’ll make it.

Unlike my friends, if I were in your shoes, I would not count on external help. It is obviously essential to contact these agencies, but be careful not to make the mistake of waiting for them to get you out of this situation. That will not happen.

Finally, if I may, tell us more about yourself... what job, what location, you never know... if someone on the forum knows someone elsewhere who is looking for someone... like you!!!

COME ON Geneviève … STAY STRONG

Kind regards

Yummy

Well, I’m from Canada. I’ve been working for Bell Canada for two and a half years, the largest telecommunications company in North America, at least. I don’t have any children; I’ve been living alone since 2005 with my cat, and I’ve been on sick leave since July 2005. The current situation will evolve depending on follow-ups and medical appointments, but the depression is definitely over.

Hello Geneviève,
Well, now we can say that everything is fine. One, you don’t have any children to take care of; two, you’ve come out of that depression; and three, you’re reacting and not just lying there inert.
You have all the time you need to get your affairs in order; you are on the path to success.
All I can do is wish you good luck and courage in your administrative procedures.
Best regards
Ladysally