Temporary departure from the site

Hello everyone,
Given the state of the stars in my life right now, I feel that life is not going to be easy for me, and it hasn’t been since last summer. It’s one of the most difficult periods, if not the most difficult.
Before my personal life gets better, I can’t see how I’ll be able to get started and, in doing so, help others.
No, I must have at least a glimmer in my future... and there isn't one.
I just lost my father, and all I can do is cry. He was more than a father; he was a role model for me. A role model in intelligence, diplomacy, knowledge, kindness, understanding, and listening. And he died in an accident. I won’t recover for a long time, because I miss him. I broke down this week after two months of holding myself together emotionally. On my birthday, I missed my father too much… and I broke down.
I am fighting against myself, and it is time to help myself before helping others.

I'm keeping my username and checking my messages, but unfortunately I have to put the rest on hold.

Maybe another member would like to take over my moderations?

ClaudiaC

Good evening, Catherine,

We can only be disappointed and surprised by your decision to leave the site, but I hope it will only be temporary!
However, I fully understand your reasons and I sincerely hope that you will manage to overcome these difficult times.

See you very soon

Warm regards
The magician.

Good evening Claudiac!

Life certainly isn't easy, and that's true in many respects.

I was about to send you a DM, but since you want to step back and recharge, I’ll hold off unless you give me the go-ahead.

I myself lost my father three years ago and had to support my mother through this ordeal while my son was also hospitalized at the same time.

So you see, I understand your pain.

That is quite true; to be able to help others, you must first be able to help yourself.
When my year 2003 was over and I had gained a bit more clarity, I informed all my loved ones that I was taking a year just for myself.

Of course, I continued to take on the essential, but I mainly devoted myself to living for myself, and it was beneficial for me.
Now, even if not everything is going well in my life, I am better at putting things in perspective.

So you have my full support. And if a painkiller can sometimes help you feel better, don't hesitate to take one.

Very friendly regards.
Kisses.

Dear Claudia,

I understand your distress and suffering; perhaps you need to recharge in a different way and take a step back from your life, your relationship, and the absence of your father.

I still feel this suffering and this lack even after 8 months now, and it is also true that you must not withdraw into yourself, as that will only intensify your suffering, and as you say, help yourself so that you can help others, as you do so well.

I don't know how to put it, but know that I am with you in spirit and that I fully understand your decision, especially if it brings you back to us refreshed and with a mind freed from all your worries.

I'm hugging you and I hope to see you again very soon

Eliana

My dear Claudiac

The backlash always comes at an important date to remind us of our suffering.

Draw on yourself; the light you have been searching for for so long, you will find and see it when you have gathered yourself within. Your father is in you, and you express this in your post through the words kindness, intelligence, diplomacy, knowledge, understanding, and listening—it is you and him at the same time; you are one person.

It is said that if you help yourself, the heavens will help you; it will take time, but you will make it. And do not forget that there is light at the end of the tunnel, even if it is long; sometimes, through sheer courage and willpower, we can get there.

I embrace you with all my heart

Véronique

Claudiac,

Dear “Conseillere”, you are one of the oldest collaborators on the site and one of the most loyal, but also one of the people whose contributions I appreciate the most. Logical. Perceptive. Full of enthusiasm.

For all these reasons, whether your absence is brief, short, or long, whether it lasts a day or a year, it will always be too long.

I rarely do clairvoyance sessions, or even never on the site. But…
As for your father, my feeling is that your problem doesn't lie there. You are suffering, you are in pain, but your suffering does not stem from this death. This death is merely a catalyst.

There are other decisions to make, and this period of your life is so hard because for the first time you are facing this kind of choice, one that life does not make for you.

Make a choice: stay in this situation and love it, or change it.

The key is there.

P.S.: I find it fabulous the way you talk about your father, and I think you’re incredibly lucky to have had one like that.

Good evening claudiac,

Just a little note to let you know that I am thinking of you very much during these very difficult times. We all go through moments in life like these; there is always a desert crossing before finding the light that will be there waiting for you. Try to get some support to get through this painful period.

I am thinking of you very strongly; we are all certainly sending you a lot of energy through our messages.

Good luck, Claudiac

reda

Hello everyone,

Thank you all for these messages.
I don’t like showing my mood swings or my aggressiveness when I’m hurt or in pain; I prefer to withdraw a bit… like the crab on the beach… will it now continue on its way and let itself get scorched by the sun, or will it go back into the water to feel alive? In Crete, at a hotel I’ve known for 20 years, there’s a small spot full of crabs, and we used to spend some time observing them… little crabs.
It’s true, Tom, I’m suffering from a situation and I have to make a decision. I’ve set myself a deadline “in my head” and it’s approaching… and I hope it resolves itself, otherwise yes, I have to take the plunge, but I don’t know where I’ll end up. And everyone around me in my personal life tells me it will work out… when will it work out? By the end of the summer? In a year? In ten years?… The longer I wait, the heavier it becomes to bear.

Lately, I’ve been lacking energy. I feel exhausted—not depressed, no, exhausted. And I recently learned two things about myself on the site that I need to “digest,” as they say. And I thank these two people anonymously.

Yes, Véronique and Tom, I inherited his qualities from my father; I just struggle with diplomacy… I’m rather direct… and when I’m not at my best, I withdraw, just as he used to do. He lives on in me, of course, he is my father. And he continues to live on in my son (he passed away on my son’s birthday). If only he hadn’t had his bad side… he was a Gemini… and I felt he had two personalities… his good side was magnificent. He became a business owner with just an apprenticeship… he had the strength within him. So do I. I just need to find it again.

Thank you, LeMagicien, Eliana, Mamyol, and Reda, for your messages.

I just want one of the “positive” clairvoyances I was kindly given to actually turn out positive… because the biggest one is negative for me. It goes against my principles and my view of life: I don’t want to be alone, and I believe life has decided for me that I will be. Two psychics in town told me so. That’s where I am.

Can I change this path now? Or should I not change it?

"Lost"…

ClaudiaC

Hello my dear Claudiac,

There are difficult moments, and sometimes very, very difficult ones, and as you say, “it’s better to sort out one’s personal life first,” but that doesn’t take away from the fact that you were wonderful, both for your presence and for your help to all of us.

We need to keep a note of hope, a glimmer in your future… and as you say, there isn’t any, and that is what saddens me and makes me feel almost responsible, because for me it requires patience and strength that I haven’t been able to give you, I’m sorry.

Your father’s death has weakened you; he is missed, and I think it is normal to cry. He was your father above all else, a model of intelligence, diplomacy, knowledge, kindness, understanding, and also of listening.

Yes, I understand you when you say you broke down and cried; holding it together and keeping it in isn’t always good. You need to express yourself rather than keeping everything inside, so it’s the best remedy.

Somewhere you will heal, my dear, and I hope as soon as possible for your child and for all those who love you. We don't always know how to show care and love the way it should be, but here it is: I say I love you a lot, my dear Claudiac, and I can see I'm not the only one.

Rest easy, take a step back, and come say hi when you get a chance, you're welcome

Best regards
Ladysally

Hello dear Catherine!

Reading this thread makes me quite sad... but I completely understand your idea of taking a step back!

You are the person I have had the most contact with since I joined the forum… I will miss you

However, be careful not to isolate yourself too much… that’s what I’ve been doing for a while too… it’s necessary, but you have to force yourself to live!
Isn't it said that as long as there is life, there is hope!?
If you wish, I suggest we stay in touch via DM so we can support each other!

I’m sending you a ton of positive vibes…
Best regards,
Isabelle.

Hello Ladysally and Raziel,

Thank you for your messages.

Isabelle, I understand and thank you for your understanding. You can message me privately. I will reply at my own pace.

I’m not going to completely isolate myself, but I have an urgent need to recharge with positive energy. to get positive again… and to help you.

ClaudiaC

P.S. Ladysally, I’m no longer going to keep this a secret, but the urn burial took a tremendous amount of energy out of me… and supporting my mother at the same time… (without going into details).

I need a glimmer to close a chapter in my life before starting another.
P.S. I also need a vacation, and according to the internet, my dream destinations are already booked... too late. I'll have to look further afield.

Good evening Claudiac!

Recharging and, above all, rediscovering oneself after life's trials sometimes takes time; I have experienced this firsthand.
I am just beginning to surface from some of them, even though, as we have already discussed, I still have many shadows and uncertainties in my life.
I know that some chapters of our lives are very difficult to turn, and for some, we will never fully get through them, but... life goes on, and we all have within us, somewhere, the strength to face it.
All you have to do is know how to find that strength.
You lost your father, to whom you were very close, but above all, with this loss, you lost the support you relied on in your other trials, and that is what you miss the most right now, in my opinion: being able to lean on his strength to support you and, above all, to seek his advice.
Your current private life is bothering you, so this death was the straw that broke the camel's back.

I am sure that you will find the strength within yourself to face the situation and make the choices you need to make, and that you will come back to us very soon.

Big kisses

Hello Mamyol,
Yes, that’s true. I lost the person who understood me best and supported me the most. They were the only one who understood me in a certain situation and who supported me. They understood my pain, and I understood theirs, without us having to say much.
I made a certain decision, and he isn't there to tell me whether it's right or wrong, or to support me 100%.
You'll tell me I have my mother, but I am... I was the father's girl.
Continuing my path without him makes me feel alone in my decisions.
…
ClaudiaC

Hello Claudiac,
I have read your messages and I am deeply touched by them.
I am sure that even though your father is no longer here, he will always watch over you, and whatever decision you have made, he will be by your side to support you.
I’m going to tell you something, even if it might seem silly to others, but I talk to my dad to tell him when things aren’t going well, what I need to do, but also about the good moments (even though I know I won’t get a response, it still feels good).
I wish you all the best, get some well-deserved rest, and I look forward to reading from you.
chryst

Hello everyone,
Just a quick note to say that I’ll be more low-key and participate less in the coming weeks, even though I’m not talking about leaving.
I feel a bit pulled in all directions and I need to find myself again.
:-* ClaudiaC

Hello Claudiac,
Rest well and take care of yourself so you can come back stronger. It’s also good to think about yourself for a while.
:)chryst

Hello Chryst,
And thank you for this little message.
I feel pulled in all directions, meaning in the professional, financial, and emotional spheres. Things need to stabilize a bit—if that’s even possible. Where I can see things a bit more clearly for myself.
ClaudiaC

Hi Claudiac!

Lots of positive thoughts for you.
Take good care of yourself.
I wish you to find yourself again and rebuild yourself.

See you very soon
Kisses

Hello Mamyol,
You saw it clearly.
That's exactly it: I have to rebuild myself.
And I have to digest all the events of this past year.
No one will rebuild me; I have to do it myself.
:-* ClaudiaC