It's starting to worry me?

Here I am, still dreaming of my mom,
I learn that she is going to die, or that I have to say my goodbyes to her, and it is very painful for me. I hold her tightly in my arms and I cry, I cry so much that when I wake up, I feel unwell. This has been going on since before Christmas! I don’t know what is happening or why???
And ever since these dreams, I've been feeling a sense of malaise; I'm desperate!!

LOULINA's friendship (a lost girl…)

I don't have enough experience with dreams to dare to comment on such a serious and important case.

I wonder whether we should also simply look into the lack and the psychological shock, something your unconscious is trying to tell you.

It seems that this dream is an expression of the lack of something you would not have had time to do before his death, something you had to tell him?

Perhaps we should explore in that direction?

Hello Loulina,

I’m in line with Tom here; if you’re feeling desperate, my dear, go see a psychologist or a social worker—someone who can help you.
At the level of your dream. You are currently going through important, and even very important, stages of your grief, my dear. And the more you resist, the more difficult it will be. Look, and listen, I have a suggestion for you, but you are free to do it or not…

Write it in a private message if you want, about your mother's death. It will be painful once again, but at least you won't be alone. Sometimes writing helps greatly in accepting death. You are resisting something, Loulina. When you write, don't censor anything. Let your heart express itself as it will, without censorship. You have the right to do so.

You can do it yourself, and then I will tell you what to do with what you have written. It is a process of awareness that I am proposing to you, and of integrating the grief for your mother, my dear. It requires a lot of love for yourself, a willingness on your part, and a degree of taking responsibility.

You write what you want without censorship Whatever it is, my dear... I know your dreams are very painful, Loulina, because it's as if they were real... Well, I am here, and I sincerely believe that many people on this forum are listening to you and supporting you through this stage of your life as a woman. They are with you; you are not alone, Loulina, in your sorrow and in your pain. I would like to be able to heal your wound, but only you can do so by activating your own healing of your grief.

Don’t forget that your mother passed away in November, I think… it’s still very fresh in your memory and in your heart. Give yourself a chance, Loulina; grief has stages. And you know what, we have the right to be in terrible anger and to believe in injustice, to even hate grief, etc… give yourself that right, my dear… We live on earth to actualize ourselves in our earthly sufferings and to discover our deep treasures therein.

Keep your courage and hope for healing.

Friendship, love, and support in energy

P.S.: If you really need to check in, do it now, Loulina.
Rolande

Thank you for Loulina… I had seen her message. I told myself I wouldn’t reply right away…

Dreams, dear Loulina, are also a way of externalizing / bringing out the bad events in life…

I think you were very close to your mother, and losing her must have been a shock for you… I know it’s a very hard way to dream about her all the time… but your subconscious has decided otherwise… you dream, and you haven’t fallen ill, for example… at least I hope so…

I had ACL surgery on my right knee myself, the most painful operation there is… and on top of that, it demands a lot from the patient… You know what I dreamed: that I had to have my knee opened up again…! I told myself it was my way of “getting rid of” that bad experience… Then I dreamed that I was skiing again.. what joy! However, I’m not going to ski this winter… I’m too afraid of falling… and having to undergo the same surgery a year later…

You know, sometimes we hesitate to ask for help... but I am just as sincere as Rolande and Tom... try to do something, ask for help, either in the forum or outside of it...

Have you ever been to a church to light a candle for her…? Do you talk to her? You can tell her that she misses you terribly…

Good luck,
ClaudiaC

Oh Loulina, I just read your testimonial and I’m moved…
I think it’s a beautiful gift that Rolande is offering you by inviting you to direct your suffering toward her. Writing can be a very good therapy. After that, it’s up to you to feel whether you want someone to listen to you or whether writing in a personal journal is enough for you.
Or both!!! Why not?
What I like about the journal is that once the trials are over, you can reread it and see all the ground you’ve covered… It’s moving but very enriching, at least according to my experience…
I'm sending you lots of kisses and good luck!

Thank you all, Tom, ddetsand, Rolande, and Claudiac;
You are making my heart sing. I had no idea I would move you to this extent, but that is what I feel deep down, sincerely... I will follow your advice. Thank you again, and thank you, Roland, for offering to help; it is truly very kind of you...

Friendship LOULINA…

Loulina… you know… sometimes we try to put ourselves in the other person's shoes to better understand and advise.
To see what would be best to do.
Good luck…
See you soon
ClaudiaC