Seeing each other again as "children"

Hello,

Could you please explain this dream I had a little while ago? I was in a car with my cousin, and we were passing by the Nostalgic Heart in front of the house where she had lived as a child, and in the garden surrounded by wire fencing, I saw myself as a “child”; I was about 8 years old.
So I got out of the car and approached “myself” and told her, come with me, because you will face many difficulties and you will suffer greatly as you grow up!!! And the moved and tender face of that little girl says “no,” I must stay!! I told her, it’s your choice, and I left with my heart in tears!!!

I have never been able to explain this dream to myself, wanting to protect myself from life and from the difficult and painful journey I have lived through!!!

Please enlighten me about this moving dream.

friendship

Eliana

Good evening Eliana,

Seeing yourself as a child in a dream is a sign of inner peace; in short, you long to regain the innocence and joy of life from that time.

Good evening
The magician.

Could you please explain this dream I had a little while ago? I was in a car with my cousin, and we passed by the Nostalgic Heart in front of the house where she lived as a child, and in the garden surrounded by wire fencing, I saw myself as a “child,” I was about 8 years old.
I then got out of the car and approached “me” and told her, come with me, because you will face many difficulties, and you will suffer greatly as you grow up!!! And the moved and tender face of this little girl tells me “no,” I must stay!! I told her, it’s your choice, and I left with my heart in tears!!!

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Indeed, that little girl who came from you—be assured—needs to be coddled, reassured that everything will be fine from now on. She needs to feel loved. Good God, the pain I feel reading you. That little girl, so deeply hurt, that even your own self couldn’t comfort her.

Yes, certainly, because you have just become aware of this little girl who is wounded in her soul, in her heart. How to bring her back now… by gently calling out to her in the dream, again and again, until she decides to follow you, because this is a part of you, Eliana, a very important part of you.

Before long, I will send you a small exercise (the trio technique, or I can post it here so it can be useful to others)—it’s up to you—to recover this part of yourself, Éliane. We cannot simply get rid of our wounded inner child, Éliana; we must tame her and show her that she can trust the adult within you, my dear. I will send you a small exercise privately to help recover her, or if you prefer, to tame her, if you agree. I mean, if the adult within you wants to do it, of course.

Christ said: and a little child will guide you xxx

Rock your inner child, Éliane. Don’t let her down, especially right now; I can feel you’re far away at the moment, as if disconnected from everything and nothing.

Courage, she will come back…

Rolande

Eliana, are you continuing with the breathing technique? By doing so, you will heal many unemerged wounds. You will heal them yourself, without a therapist; you are your own inner doctor. Then, in turn, you will be able to heal others.

Rolande

Dear Eliana,

I fully share my friends' analysis. Nevertheless, I think of that little girl who must have often felt very lonely and fearful. The adult you are tells her that the past was indeed difficult to live through and that she needs to move on. Yet, the little girl's potential was strong back then to reach the balance of the adult who is still searching, as she feels she has not yet found her path. But I sense she is close; you will find your path, and the right one.

As our friend Rolande said, how much suffering this little girl has endured. The pain is not yet fully healed today, but you will heal it.

The magician speaks to you of inner peace; this inner peace, I believe, you will find, and you will feel it beginning to come to you slowly but surely.

Tenderly

Thank you Lemagicien, Rolande and Josy for your support.

It is indeed true that when I was little, I suffered from isolation and fears! And I would cry, asking my mom, why do we have to die?
I knew that certain misfortunes would befall our family, but I didn’t know why. With the benefit of hindsight and age, I think I was right to have some premonitions…

Rolande, yes, I’m continuing the relaxation technique, but I have to say that lately it’s not working anymore!!! I can’t relax and “how do I put it” I’m nervous, and I have the “fidgets,” I have to move because the nerves are taking over my whole body!!! >:(

I agree to you posting the trio technique so that other members on this site can benefit from it.

Thank you for your encouragement

friendship

Eliana

Dear Éliana, it is normal to feel restless during exercise… you need to try to stay still, and I know that is difficult. To alleviate all of this, reduce your breathing (I mean less deep; instead of breathing into the bottom of your belly, breathe up to the level of the plexus). Do you have any other discomforts during breathing?

Friendship

Rolande

Good evening Rolande,

I have no other discomforts except that this bar at the plexus level comes on as soon as I start the exercise, so I perform the technique directly at the plexus level, and at that moment, a lot of images come to mind… :-
A small note: I’m experiencing quite strong tingling sensations in my head at times!!! Do you think that’s normal?

Actually, I did the breathing less deeply; I did it right away when it started making me too nervous!!!

But I persist, Rolande, I don't get tired of it that easily.

friendship

Eliana

Hi Eliana.. yes, it's completely normal to have a flood of images in your head; you just need to observe and continue breathing. The tingling sensations are related to your brain clearing up... maybe try the breathing exercise for a bit longer... as you say so well, you need to keep going and persevere. Don't forget the trio technique.

Rolande

Hello Eliana, here is the trio technique (according to Jobin, 2000:94)

1. It involves creating a series of three drawings.

2 The first two express the opposite poles of a theme.
EX: I want to go on a journey to discover my inner child, or I want to heal my inner child, etc… Choose your theme.

On the first sheet, you draw your ambitions, discoveries, etc. On the second, you draw your fears of the unknown.

3. In the third drawing, I integrate my desire and my fear together.

The purpose of using this technique is to move beyond dualities, get to the heart of a conflict, gain an overview of the situation, and clarify our dilemmas in order to ultimately make informed choices.

Technically, we choose a dichotomy such as staying or leaving, and this dichotomy is illustrated on sheets of paper.

Suggestions: reproduce only the main element or the overall feeling. The third sheet represents the grouping of the opposition into a single drawing, specifically in a mandala.

Writing your comments or reactions after the exercise completes the whole thing well.

Time required: approximately 10 minutes.

friendship /rolande

Here is another technique called the self-portrait (according to the author Lorraine Dumont, MSc in Art Therapy).

Instructions:
You will draw, paint, represent yourself, create a self-portrait using lines, shapes, and colors. It can be figurative or non-figurative.
You can use dry or liquid media, or clay, for this self-portrait.

You can choose to make a similar, realistic self-portrait, or you can choose to do it symbolically through lines, spots, shapes, colors, or a personal or archetypal symbol.

Individual return instructions: answer the following questions…

1. In terms of the process
   How did you build it, how did the idea come to you: did you see it in your head beforehand, or did it develop gradually?

2. In terms of identification
   I feel before this self-portrait…
   I am surprised by …
   What I like about myself is …
   If I were to change something about myself, it would be…

3. In terms of dialogue
   Who are you?
   What I like about myself is …
   What do you have to teach me about myself now?
   Which part of me is expressed in this self-portrait: public, social, intimate, other.

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Definition of self-portrait:

It is the projection of oneself into a representation of shapes, lines, and colors. What is created comes from within, from our imagination. (The word projection comes from Latin: to throw, to cast out, forward, ahead). The self-portrait is a symbolic representation that states who we are, consciously or unconsciously, expressing our vision of ourselves in shapes and colors. It is both a projection of what is and what is desired. It is past, present, and now.

It is made up of our vision, of what we have internalized, and of how others see us. It can include a more secret, more intimate view of ourselves, or be more public and social, but all of it speaks of ourselves anyway. If we made several self-portraits, there would be both consistencies and new things that would tell us about ourselves.

What the self-portrait allows

To express oneself differently, to step out of the known.

To create a self-portrait composed of shapes, lines, colors, and symbols.

Allows you to observe the graphic evolution and maturation in children or adults.

It allows one to observe, in a child or adult, body awareness (body schema), self-esteem, whether they have projected an ideal of themselves, the emotions they are experiencing (anger, sadness, tension/anxiety), and the lack of dynamism or movement (rigidity, neutrality of expression).

It therefore aids in input and comprehension, its difference, within a relational and secure framework.

Allows tracking of an evolutionary process in how the person represents themselves.

If the child or adult depicts themselves in a setting, we can learn about the environment they have created and their perception of that environment.

Thank you very much, Rolande, for these techniques;

That seems a bit complicated to me???

So if I understand correctly, you have to draw whatever comes to mind at the moment you start the technique, use the colors, shapes, and symbols that come to you that way, and not think about what you're doing, and then analyze those shapes and drawings afterward…

Is there any specific preparation required before this technique? Should we focus on a particular moment in our lives, or simply let our mind be guided?

How to recognize our anger, sadness, anxiety, etc., through the expression of drawings... and the colors, which ones represent sadness, anger, peace, understanding...

Please explain to me.

friendship

Eliana

Hi Eliana, no, it’s not complicated, you take three sheets to draw. On the first sheet, you draw your ambitions, your discoveries, etc. On the second, you draw your fears of the unknown. In the third drawing, I combine my desire and my fear together.

I'll give you an example:

First drawing theme: reconnecting with my inner child = your desires and ambitions… you create the drawing in relation to this theme
Second drawing: you draw your fears of rediscovering this child

Third drawing:
You integrate your fears and your ambitions together.

It’s not difficult or complicated; you just need to draw it, that’s all, and then you do the analysis yourself.

Is there any particular preparation before this technique? Do we need to think of a specific moment in our lives, or simply let our mind be guided?

No, you simply do it and you will get answers in your drawing.

Try it and you'll see the result... we'll talk about it later

Rolande

OK, thanks, Rolande.

I'll keep you posted…

friendship

Eliana